Tag: Personal Improvement

That Th!nk You Do Chapter X+2 – Four Rules for Thinking Like An Expert

(Another chapter in my forthcoming non-fiction That Th!nk You Do (note the clever change in the title? Gotta love those creatives, don’t you?) The fascinating chapter numbers are due to unfinished editing. I hope to share the bookcover soon)

What is expertise? Most people know it when they see it or when they’re in the presence of someone with expertise in a given field. Talking with a friend yesterday, she admitted she hardly feels like an expert even though she’s taught at the university level.

I asked “How come?” and she answered, “Because I’m old enough to know what I don’t know.”

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The Stranger The Better now on BizCatalyst360

Dennis Pitocco and BizCatalyst360 published The Stranger The Better, one of the chapters in my soon-to-be-released non-fiction The Th!nk You Do.

 

A fascinating piece of social research has made it to my desk. It deals with males’ success rate with females in typical mating situations.
To readers outside of social anthropology, this means “What can guys do to make sure girls notice them in bars, at clubs, in the mall, in the hall, in the cafeteria, at the dance, …?”
The research points out one of those things that’s obvious. So obvious, one might ask, “Somebody had to do research on this?”
Well, yes. Because when you think about it, it’s not what most guys do in typical mating situations and that’s probably why few males have the kind of success they want.

The Trick Is…

Let me know what you think.

Enjoy!

Zen Benefiel Chat Snippet #12 – Denying Our Burdens Causes Our Deaths

And here we come to the last Zen Benefiel Chat snippets.

Sigh.

As always, many thanks to Zen Benefiel for having me take part in his One World in a New World series.

I’m sharing some snippets from the full conversation (you can find it on Youtube) every few days. Previous snippets are:

In the meantime, please enjoy Denying Our Burdens Causes Our Deaths.

 
AND!!!
I’ll give an autographed copy of The Augmented Man to the first five people who comment on the chat (with extra points if you can find my flubs).

That Th!nk You Do Chapter X+2 – Get a Good Mad Going – It Might Be Good For You

You’re about to enter a meeting and you’ve been warned you’re going to be challenged…a lot.
Is it better

  • to seek a quiet place, to calm yourself, to find your
    center and go into the meeting relaxed or
  • to focus on the idea of being challenged, being put on
    the spot, possibly being singled out in front of your
    peers?

Based on studies performed in Boston and elsewhere, it’s better to enter confrontational situations a little hot under the collar.

Just so we’re clear on things, I’m not suggesting you go in armed for bear and looking to take no prisoners, nothing of the sort.

That offered, chances are you’ll come out of the meeting or situation better if you go in with your blood up. The reasons are (evolutionary-wise) simple. Knowing a confrontation or some unpleasantness will take place gives your mind and body and evolutionary advantage, the “fight” aspect of what use to be called the flight-or-fight response. Just knowing a challenge is looming causes changes to your body chemistry, especially your neural chemistry. You go from prey to predator mode, essentially, and your body adjusts itself without your realizing it’s doing so. Your movements, your voice, your expressions, even your irises start giving off “Keep your distance, bucko!” signals that other people, equally without realizing it, pick up and respond to.

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Zen Benefiel Chat Snippet #11 – Smart Monkeys on a Flying Rock Going Around a Nuclear Reactor

Many thanks to Zen Benefiel for having me take part in his One World in a New World series.

I’m sharing some snippets from the full conversation (you can find it on Youtube) every few days. Previous snippets are:

In the meantime, please enjoy Smart Monkeys on a Flying Rock Going Around a Nuclear Reactor.

 
AND!!!
I’ll give an autographed copy of The Augmented Man to the first five people who comment on the chat (with extra points if you can find my flubs).