Category: Non-Fiction

The Stranger The Better now on BizCatalyst360

Dennis Pitocco and BizCatalyst360 published The Stranger The Better, one of the chapters in my soon-to-be-released non-fiction The Th!nk You Do.

 

A fascinating piece of social research has made it to my desk. It deals with males’ success rate with females in typical mating situations.
To readers outside of social anthropology, this means “What can guys do to make sure girls notice them in bars, at clubs, in the mall, in the hall, in the cafeteria, at the dance, …?”
The research points out one of those things that’s obvious. So obvious, one might ask, “Somebody had to do research on this?”
Well, yes. Because when you think about it, it’s not what most guys do in typical mating situations and that’s probably why few males have the kind of success they want.

The Trick Is…

Let me know what you think.

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That Th!nk You Do Chapter X+2 – Get a Good Mad Going – It Might Be Good For You

You’re about to enter a meeting and you’ve been warned you’re going to be challenged…a lot.
Is it better

  • to seek a quiet place, to calm yourself, to find your
    center and go into the meeting relaxed or
  • to focus on the idea of being challenged, being put on
    the spot, possibly being singled out in front of your
    peers?

Based on studies performed in Boston and elsewhere, it’s better to enter confrontational situations a little hot under the collar.

Just so we’re clear on things, I’m not suggesting you go in armed for bear and looking to take no prisoners, nothing of the sort.

That offered, chances are you’ll come out of the meeting or situation better if you go in with your blood up. The reasons are (evolutionary-wise) simple. Knowing a confrontation or some unpleasantness will take place gives your mind and body and evolutionary advantage, the “fight” aspect of what use to be called the flight-or-fight response. Just knowing a challenge is looming causes changes to your body chemistry, especially your neural chemistry. You go from prey to predator mode, essentially, and your body adjusts itself without your realizing it’s doing so. Your movements, your voice, your expressions, even your irises start giving off “Keep your distance, bucko!” signals that other people, equally without realizing it, pick up and respond to.

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Get a Good Mad Going – It Might Be Good For You now on BizCatalyst360

Dennis Pitocco and BizCatalyst360 published Get a Good Mad Going – It Might Be Good For You, one of the chapters in my soon-to-be-released non-fiction The Th!nk You Do.

 

You’re about to enter a meeting and you’ve been warned you’re going to be challenged…a lot.
Is it better…

  • to seek a quiet place, to calm yourself, to find your center and go into the meeting relaxed or
  • to focus on the idea of being challenged, being put on the spot, possibly being singled out in front of your peers?


Let me know what you think.

Enjoy!

That Th!nk You Do Chapter X+1 – Taking Back Your Life, part 2

Following up on last week’s That Think You Do Chapter X – Taking Back Your Life, part 1, we now offer part 2.

Enjoy!

The whole key to taking back control of your life is allowing yourself to feel good about yourself. I’m surprised at how few people have this ability any more. Being pulled in many different directions often only serves to pull us off balance, to cause us to forget who we are and why we’re doing what we do.

Personal Philosophy Alert: We’re here for each other.

For what it’s worth and (hopefully) for your pleasure and enlightenment, here are six more simple ways neuroscience and psychology tell us we can take back control of our lives.

Decide If It’s Worth the Effort
Is something upsetting you? Take a moment to decide if what’s upsetting you is worth the energy and effort you’re devoting to it. Chances are what’s upsetting you is out of your control, isn’t what you think it is, is a miscommunication, and so on. You can laugh or rage at what happens in your life and either one can leave you in tears and gasping for breath. Given the options, putting the energy into laughter makes your heart and mind stronger.

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