Tag: Relationships

UNSHELTERED-None of Us Are Home Until All of Us Are Home

My non-fiction piece, “The Difference” appears in a monumental, breakthrough (my opinions, these, and not because I have a piece in the book) anthology UNSHELTERED-None of Us Are Home Until All of Us Are Home.

Speaking for myself, adding my contribution – even offering to do so – proved a great challenge, almost too great. I recounted one of the most difficult and painful periods of my life. I’ve always written based on my experiences, and always behind the mask of characters in some story or novel, never directly stating “This is me.”

Many deep thanks to Dennis Pitocco and Peggy Willms for accepting my contribution and publicly validating this period in my life.

The healing continues, for myself and I hope for others.

Thanks.

That Th!nk You Do is now an audiobook

That Th!nk You Do, my first title with Northern Lights Publishing and published Jan ’23, is now available as an audio book.

Northern Lights’s A-Team had many discussions about going the audio route, and several audio providers (of course) leapt forward explaining how they’d do the best job.

Already having one audio book failure with a previous publisher, I was skeptical.

In the end, Northern Lights went with Amazon’s native ACX system for several reasons (which they’ll explain). The chosen narrator, Nicholas Torres, did an excellent job.

I also have some promo codes available, and the next five people to become members of this blog will get one.

And as always, thanks for your support.

 

Rob and Joan Carter’s MEET THE AUTHOR interview Snippet 10 – Victims

I mentioned Rob and John Carter and I chatting on their MEET THE AUTHOR show in previous blog posts.

This is post #10 in a series of thirteen snippets taken from the full interview video. You can also listen to the interview via podcast

Today’s snippet deals with my recognizing and sharing an aspect of victimhood which, when I first mentioned it publicly – wasn’t well received.

Enjoy!

 

The Stranger The Better now on BizCatalyst360

Dennis Pitocco and BizCatalyst360 published The Stranger The Better, one of the chapters in my soon-to-be-released non-fiction The Th!nk You Do.

 

A fascinating piece of social research has made it to my desk. It deals with males’ success rate with females in typical mating situations.
To readers outside of social anthropology, this means “What can guys do to make sure girls notice them in bars, at clubs, in the mall, in the hall, in the cafeteria, at the dance, …?”
The research points out one of those things that’s obvious. So obvious, one might ask, “Somebody had to do research on this?”
Well, yes. Because when you think about it, it’s not what most guys do in typical mating situations and that’s probably why few males have the kind of success they want.

The Trick Is…

Let me know what you think.

Enjoy!

That Th!nk You Do Chapter 6 – Guys Can’t Help Themselves

For those who didn’t know, I’ve signed with a new publisher and my first book out with them, The Think You Do, should be available late Nov-Dec ’22.

Read:

As always, let me know what you think.

Guys Can’t Help Themselves

 
I have never accepted “Boys will be boys” as an excuse for socially unacceptable behavior. But have you noticed that the vast number of “acting out” news items involve males? Consider DUIs, fights, shouting matches, anything you care to recognize as “bad behavior” and the involvement of males greatly over shadows the involvement of females.

Why is that?

Well, to a certain degree it’s because guys can’t help themselves.

No, this is not an apologetic for bad behavior and I’m definitely not providing men a carte blanche. What I’m recognizing is that the wiring of the male brain makes it easier for them to behave badly. Women don’t have the same wiring.

And no, I’m not kidding. Research performed at John Hopkins and elsewhere is verifying yet another difference between males and females, another evolutionary difference in addition to the obvious sexual traits.

It works like this: cause humans to do something pleasurable and their brains release dopamine (the “pleasure molecule”). Well, duh!, right? But male brains release up to three times as much pleasure for a given stimulus as female brains do.

Three times as much? Well, heck. Sign me up right now, please.
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